Now this post is completely sponsored by day 5 of a gastro bug, potential anaemia, and still struggling with my operation I had a month ago. I’ve done nothing but sit on the sofa and binge watch Netflix (FYI you need to get into The Returned and Between, if you haven’t already).
And the one thing that I kept thinking off was, I seriously cant bring myself to social media, let alone write a blog post that wasn’t going to completely reflect my mood and my sickness. I longed for the days where I could just sit, rest and recuperate and then get my shit together and head to work- get my ass in the kitchens and work a normal lunch shift. But no, instead I’m sitting here worrying about how I haven’t uploaded to Instagram in three days. My tweets haven’t linked anyone back to my blog in even longer and don’t even get me started on my YouTube or Facebook. And this isn’t just a pity party for one- oh woe is me, I need to blog.
Certain events have happened over the last few months that have all led up to these feelings. Now I haven’t been a blogger for as long as others in the ‘sphere- but nearly 2 years of it can give you a pretty good perspective. Unfortunately over the last couple of months, the negativity has overtaken the positives that come with being a blogger, especially a full time one.
People are harsh.
People are two faced.
And the ultimate shit in the fan- people don’t care.
This isn’t everyone, I’m not branding anyone in particular here, but this is does fit certain people, and I’m sure you feel the same with people you know and follow or have seen happen to other people.
Bloggers are expected to be this wonderful online genius, that eludes positivity and happiness and isn’t allowed to feel that little bit moody or PMS-y without being moaned at that they should be grateful for not having to work ‘a real job’ or to stop being selfish that they get ‘given all these freebies and holidays and events’
Firstly. STOP. Just stop- It’s frigging hard work. The hours upon hours of editing, writing, creating, scheduling. You wouldn’t comment like that about anyone else’s job so why should this be any different.
I have seen this happen a LOT with people that don’t put #ad or #spon on their posts. Fan-fucking-tastic. CELEBRATE that you are being paid and a brand thinks you are worthy of paying. Don’t hide it. We all see through you and that just brands us all with the above- and it’s not fair. But also don’t call bloggers that do get paid to sponsor something a sell-out, it’s part of their job. You wouldn’t tell the girl working in new look- wearing new look that she’s a sell-out and she’s fake. It’s the same concept. Grow the fuck up. All this does is make the rest of us want to hide it and then its a vicious circle of never being able to be happy with our own work.
Certain people are fake. They aren’t like they are online. They give out this impression that they are, and then when you meet them it’s like you aren’t even worthy of being able to breathe the same air as them. My blogger gal vix (who is exactly like she is online) has hit the nail on the head with this on her latest post.
It’s fucking stressful to not only have decent content to upload that you pray your followers are going to like- but it’s even harder to think of something original and for someone to them blatantly copy it. It’s not flattery, it’s not cute, its god damn plagiarism and we see you- we see you. We see you stealing other people’s hard work and effort and try to pass it off as your own, and we have also seen you steal the ideas of photos and I’m sick of it. I’m sick of seeing not only the same post and photo styles pop up over my newsfeeds, closely followed by indirect tweets about X who has stolen X’s idea and the drama that twitter just loves.
Twitter drama is worse than the daily mail and the sun paper put together, with a little bit of the Cosmo Olympics feminism surrounding bulges thrown in for good measure. People are attracted to them like flies to a day old dog shit. Then pipe up with their own ideas without fully understanding how or why the drama started. They just like to feel apart of the cliché ripping apart someone or something without doing their research. And all it does, is bring this cloud of negativity over the social media world that we could all do without. I recently saw someone tweet “I’m scared to tweet anything these days in case I offend someone”. Pretty much at the same time as the #SaveTwitter campgain started- where people are worried about the amount of cyber-bullying has affected twitter. How have we got to this stage? What happened?
Blogging is hard on its own. I’ve written many posts about it, and hundreds of other bloggers have as well, and that is something that is never going to change, because people need to realise that it’s just as stressful as any other job. It’s a way of bringing in income- but a way that is done where you are completely on your own, vulnerable to the vultures of the internet. It brings so much hate. So much anger. So many bitter, spiteful comments and fake, rude people.
Imagine spending hours writing or months building up your Instagram account, for someone to instantly write you a hate comment for no particular reason. Just because they can.
Brilliant 5* world. You’ve taken something as wonderful as being able to share opinions, stories and photos- journeys and lives into something so cut-throat and disgusting that brings people to tears and causes anxiety and hate to what they do. To the point that they want to quit. Just to get away from it all.
But what if you can’t.
You can’t just leave a world where you have invested so much of your time into. Into the people that aren’t complete grade A bitches- the ones that do actually appreciate you, and build you up. To a world where you are so invested in other peoples lives and journeys as much as you are in your own.
I won’t lie when I say the temptation to quit isn’t at an all time-high right now- the highest it’s ever been.
And I will put money on others being in the same boat as me.
So what are we gonna do about it?
so much blog hate right now.