Blogging has been super hard for me over the last two weeks- so has eating, sleeping, getting dressed, showering and everything else that we take for granted every single day.
As you know I only went and broke my bloody wrist- which you are all probably as sick of me moaning about, as I am off being stuck in this cast still. 3 weeks and counting. (LOL that’s so bloody far away- brb while I go cry in the corner!!!)
Although it does come with some silver linings as it has taught me a few things about life that we should all take in to consideration- which is probably the most weirdest reason I’ve ever had to write a blog post- but yano, they tell you to write about what you know, and this is all I know right now.
1- You never know what pain people are hiding, and what they are suffering with underneath- so be kind, be helpful and be respectful.
It’s quite easy for people to see why I’m not the happiest when travelling on the train, or the quickest at paying for something or even the strongest when it comes to opening doors. You can clearly see the giant purple cast on my arm. But what about the people that are suffering in silence, with something that isn’t as noticeable. People all have their secrets, pains and problems. Think about that the next time; before you tut or sigh that someone is taking longer than you would have expected, or needs a little bit of extra help.
2- Don’t expect life to be handed to you on a silver platter just because you have been dealt a bad hand for a while. You still need to be your own damn boss and slay the day, your way.
Okay so life has thrown you a curve ball. But don’t expect the world to treat you any different. Everybody has their own problems going on (see point 1 for an example) and the world is a cruel, man eat man world. Stop expecting people to come to your rescue and be your own hero. Find alternative ways to deal with whatever situation you have got to handle- you can do it- and who knows, you might even find a better way of doing something than before.
3- Appreciate the small things.
Having a huge problem hanging over your head (or off your arm) can make your world seem a little less cheery and a whole lot more foggy. But instead of burying your head in the sand and feeling sorry for yourself, take the time to appreciate the smaller things in life- like having to go out shopping to find clothes that fit over your cast but not feeling guilty about spending money because it’s a necessity right now. Or getting a decent nights sleep for the first time in ages, or even enjoying an extra long lay-in because you can’t go to the gym. Stop seeing everything as a problem created by your problem, and start finding small resolutions for them and appreciate the things you may not have done before.
4- Learn to accept help and not feel weak about it.
This may come as a little bit of a shock to most people’s systems, and is a slight contradiction to the previous statements about slaying the day and taking control of your own situations. But sometimes, just sometimes you need to ask for help- or accept it when it is offered. This could be from friends, family members or even strangers. I know for me, its hard to do, as I always want to be that boss girl who is able to do her own thang and one that doesn’t need help. But I was stuck on a long train journey the other day, thirsty- and unable to open my bottle due to only having one functional hand. So instead of just cutting my nose of to spite my face, I asked for help- and it may just have been the fact that I finally got some fluid in my dehydrated, withered body but I felt a sense of relief that I was able to recognise when I needed help and wasn’t too stubborn to do something about it. No matter how big or small the situation is, make sure that you adapt this into your own life and understand that it’s not weak to ask for help.
5- No matter how strong you think something is- if enough pressure is put on it- it will break.
This post is definitely getting more deep than I thought, when I first started writing it as just a little gimmicky piece. But this is probably one of the most relevant and true statements here. We all like to think that we are superheroes sometimes. We pile on the stress, the drama, the workload, the priority- but sometimes, things snap. They break. They bend. They get destroyed. Even the strongest of materials, like bones- can get broken if we put too much pressure on them. So stop, evaluate and ask yourself… Are the things you are doing going to benefit you in any way, or are they just causing another block of pressure that is going to be your downfall. It’s okay to not be a superhero every day of every week. We are all allowed days off or to say NO to people and extra tasks- because this doesn’t just affect our physical health, but our mental ones as well. Don’t be the reason for breaking- understand it before it happens.