It’s come increasingly obvious to me, that dating in the modern world, just isn’t like it used to be.
With ghosting, hyping, grave-yarding and all these other buzz words, that sound like something out of a low-budget horror film- dating has lost it’s way- but why?
Who or what is to blame? Is it dating apps, the technological advances of being able to always keep an eye on ‘the next one’ or is it the strong-willed, independent 21st century personality traits that have lost their way in anything romantic, spontaneous and committed or is it both, or is it something completely unrelated to any of the above?
I can’t tell you why, or how it’s happened- but it has. And it makes my heart, body and soul sad, along with a whole heap of other girls and guys along with me, every day.
Maybe I’m old-fashioned, childish, stupid, or naive- but I still want someone, that wants me- for me.
Not for the amount of followers I have or the amount in my bank account.
Someone that wants and craves to spend time with me.
Someone who texts me just because they want to know how my day is going, or calls me just because they miss my voice.
I want someone who is as committed as I am- regardless of how we met, and if its day 1 or day 1,000, or how bad our days are going.
I want someone I can laugh, cry and be fully with in every situation.
Someone that trusts me to be there for them, as much as they are for me.
I want someone that wants to be in a relationship with me- flaws and all.
Someone who is done with being casual.
And that means: good morning, beautiful- how is your day going texts, goodnight, i’ll be dreaming off you kisses, and holding hands in the street. Texting all day and night because you legit just can’t get enough of each other and all that other gross coupley stuff.
Because if you can’t do all that- then what’s the point of being in a relationship. I need another half, not another friend.
Dating apps may have been created for love, sex and relationships- but all it has succeeded in doing is, creating an extensive catalogue of unwanted pen-pals that make you feel all excited about possibilities before quickly becoming angry with feelings of being used, abused and forever feeling lost.
Modern relationship communication has been replaced with emojis, gifs and flirty likes and RT’s.
Modern relationship trust has been replaced with social media stalking.
Modern relationship futures have been replaced with planning how to secure the next one.
Relationships have changed- and good ol’ fashioned dating seems to no longer exist. But I’m not ready to change just yet, and I’m not giving up that easy. I can’t be the only one who wishes for courting and date nights, and wearing my heart on my sleeve. Right? We all deserve our ‘old-fashioned’ modern day fairy-tale.