This may sound like some terrible click-bait title, or some ‘happiness hippy new world’ cult rant but it’s not. It’s the truth. It comes alongside the exact moment that I decided to let go off the past, let go of the negativity and decide then and there that I would always choose happiness. Now this wasn’t just some spur of the moment epiphany nor was it some long monologue of life-altering events all leading up to this momentous occasion. In-fact it was quite the opposite.
It was a Thursday evening – and not even an exciting one at that. I had spent all day answering emails, editing photos and watching First Dates while picking at a very gross dinner made by yours truly (even us chefs get it wrong somedays!) then finished with Lemon Meringue Ice-Cream because yano, girls got to eat.
I was laying in bed, deciding on the next blog post when I realised something. I was content. I was happy and I was finally at a stage in my life where I understood what I needed to do to always feel that spark I was currently experiencing, the one I always knew I had – I needed to allow myself the opportunity to always choose happiness.
Happiness is a way of life. It’s not something that can brought, something we can own or something we can achieve. It’s something we all deserve and something we need to allow ourselves to feel in order to actually feel it.
We all believe that we will ‘be happy’ once we gain that promotion, meet the ‘One’, loose those few extra pounds. But the problem with relying on short-lived happiness factors such as these, is that is exactly what they are. They are short-lived. Once we buy that designer bag, or get that pay rise – we are happy, for a moment. But it is soon replaced by the next thing that we want. We live in a world, where we are so privileged to be able to go after our dreams and our goals and actually gain them. But just because we are able to better ourselves does not mean we should ensure all off our happiness comes down to these specific things, they should just be an added bonus.
We should be able to choose happiness.. just because.. and we can!
Happiness comes from within. It comes from content, it comes from self-belief, self-confidence, self-worth and self- sufficient support. It comes from knowing who you are, what you are capable off, where you have come from and where you are going. It comes from being happy with the position that you are currently in, and leaving the anger and the hurt behind. It also comes from not putting too much pressure on yourself to achieve certain things or possessions in the future and not being envious or jealous of other people around you.
The moment I chose happiness is the moment that I decided that I was completely happy with the person I was in that exact moment. It came from understanding exactly what I had to do to get there, understanding the potential I had in the future but without putting any undue pressure on achieving specific factors and it came from fully realising that I am in control of my own happiness, and without me choosing it, it was never going to happen.
This doesn’t mean to say I do not have any goals or future plans – it just means that what ever happens, good or bad – I will continue to choose happiness. I will use my negative experiences as learning curves, I will use my mistakes as stepping stones and I will use my misfortune to grow.
It has taken me 24 years, 7 months and a couple of days to be able to finally say, with my head held high – I am happy.
Growing up I was always a glass half full kinda gal, it was only until about eight years ago that the cup developed this small, unnoticeable crack, that slowly and surely over the years started to leak. Adult life and the modern world in all its magnificent glory is also a playground of stress and worry and anxiety and anger and hurt and all the other negative, bad words I could fill my page with, but you get where I’m going with this. The weight of the world can wear us down. It can create a big grey cloud over our heads. I thought for a very long time that this was just normal. That this was just how adult people lived. But it’s not until you start to peak out from under your rain cloud and look past the harrowing icy rain to see that there are rainbows and sunshine over other people’s skies – and you can have that too.
You just need to choose your own happiness.