The start of 2018 is well and truly upon us and with it comes the chance to reflect back on the year just passed and to start creating plans, goals and resolutions for the next. But before you just start thinking about what you should be doing next year, why not take note from your past experience and think about what you shouldn’t be too.
Take this time to reflect on yourself and the year you have just had – what you did well, what you didn’t, what made you proud and what you need to learn from to create a well-rounded 2018 resolution list with goals ‘to do’ and traits ‘to don’t’ to create the best year possible.
So, here’s 5 simple things that we all need to stop doing in 2018, and what to focus on instead:
Don’t always rely on other people and Do learn how to become independent.
People are wonderful – from friends, to colleagues, to strangers we meet on the internet, there is always someone there to help us out of sticky situations. Or to give us their advice, help us out when we are clueless, a little bit lost unsure or just plain stuck. But there comes a fine line to appreciating the help or just using it to our own advantage.
When we know that there is always someone there who can help us out of these situations, we can get a little bit lazy – we know we will always be bailed out if something goes wrong and therefore not giving it our all, and sometimes we just don’t even bother, for knowledge that someone else will. But it’s time we start learning to believe in ourselves. To become independent in our work, in ourselves and in our day to day situations. To learn how to change a tyre, to work the printer at work and to trust our own gut feelings.
Make it your 2018 goal to learn something new each month you didn’t know before.
Don’t listen to fads and advice you see on Instagram and Do start listening to your body.
‘Don’t take health advice from Instagram’ was one the best pieces of advice I got in 2017.
The problem with social media is that you only ever see a snippet of someones life, the part that they want you to see and we are all guilty of it – and it’s normally harmless. But when it comes to our bodies and our health, to take these things with a pinch of salt and without any real research or understanding can cause no end of damage!
If something looks too good to be true, it probably is. So, please I beg you, stop taking advice from someone you follow online, and start listening to your own body and the advice of qualified practitioners and doctors.
Don’t try and please everyone and Do start doing things to make yourself happy.
Theres a two prong approach to this one:
1. You can’t please everyone – you are not peanut butter. During your life, be it personal, social or professional, there are going to be times that people are not happy with what you are doing, but if it makes you happy – you should do it anyways. Stop trying to please everyone, and learn to keep doing the things that you love to do.
2. You are not a super hero – you can’t do everything in order to please everyone. There is a limit to the amount you can do in an hour, a day, a week, month, year or life – don’t spend your time feeling like you have to do things to keep your friends, colleagues or family happy when it means you neglect the things that make you happy.
You need to make yourself and your own happiness a priority.
Don’t compare yourself to other people, and Do give yourself credit.
Comparing yourself and the speed of your progression to other peoples only pushes yourself backwards even further.
We need to stop thinking and comparing our achievements against other peoples, we need to be proud of who we are, what we do, what we have learnt and how far we have come.
We need to celebrate the little things, shout about the big and give ourselves credit every day. Comparing can only bring negative emotions from jealousy, anger, vanity or envy. Lets swap these for positivity and self-love.
Don’t obsess over social media, and Do learn how to live in the moment.
Social media can be incredible – it can introduce you to a wide and diverse range of different people, content, ideas and stories that you may have never seen before, but it can also become something we obsess over.
Getting that ‘perfect shot’ or video content to share on SM can sometimes stop us from living in the moment and enjoying the memory we are desperately trying to create in order to hold onto. Ironic really. Sometimes we need to just put away our technology and enjoy our lives for all the fun, loveable, joyous moments we live in. Just because you didn’t put something online, doesn’t mean you didn’t do it. Remember the moments from being present, not for the shot you took.
Also remember that social media is only a small snippet into someones life. The most exciting, glamorous and thought out part. Being jealous or envious of what someone posts online can cause those negative thoughts and emotions mentioned before – and these are being brewed without really seeing what that person has had to do in order to get to that stage in their life, all the hard work, effort, blood, sweat and tears. Nothing is ever as ‘easy’ or ‘real’ as it looks like online. Think about that the next time you get a bit ‘sessed with the ‘gram.